Why love relationships are so complicated ? Basically, Why can’t be it cool like friendship?
State of mind completely changes the moment we start sharing everything physically & psychologically. Consciously, we try to stay balance but after honeymoon period or after one minor “red flag” we start comparing current relationship with previous relationships.
During the start phase of relationship we want to spend every minute together but it gets messy when one of the partner wants it slow and ” little detached ” which is having their own space and time. One of the partner starts to flip out or feel insecure and shares the desire to spend more time but other partner does not want the same because he or she wants to keep it balance. More talk, more desperation , more drama and then break time.
I believe it all depends how we grew up and raised by our parents but it does not mean that we start blaming our parents.
We must start taking responsibility & learn to understand then control emotions , emotions which can cause more stress and pain.
If you heart says that it’s not going to work out then don’t let fears run the show. Fear of being alone or lonely , fear of not finding another partner and so on. You can apply it to men , I guess
Seeking security , specially woman who goes into relationship so that they can feel safe and secure as they cannot be alone. Compromising or settling down because of this fear & when it gets too much then Ta da ta da…changing overnight and he start sracthing his head then why did she change suddenly? Why is she completely a different person?
Avoid monkey jumps , jumping from one relationship to another because you cannot be alone and worse part of money jumps is “emotional bagage” , You go into new ship while still carrying the load of previous ship and create more mess for you and other person.
All this brings more complications in a relationship.